Tuesday, 23 April 2013

The "Kia Kaha" Quilt- a special quilt for a special person

Kia kaha is a Māori phrase used by both the Māori and Pākehā (European) people of New Zealand meaning stay strong, used as an affirmation. The phrase has significant meaning for both the Māori and Pākehā people.

The "Kia Kaha" quilt is finally finished!  This quilt was made for someone very near and dear to me that has just recently come out of a long and painful relationship.

 Although not physically violent (that I know of) the emotional scars are clear to see.

Years of being put down have whittled away any self esteem that she had. Slowly she was  isolated from those that loved her and were concerned for her. It was so hard to stand by and see what was happening but feel powerless to help.

I am sorry for the things I could have done, should have done, and didn't.  I am sorry for being angry with her for not understanding why she chose to stay. You deserved so much better!

The cost of leaving has been high -  losing everything including her children that have chosen to stay with their father.  I pray that one day they will understand what you endured and all that you did  for them.

I am thankful that she is now safe!  Today is a new day and a new beginning!  The road ahead will not be an easy one but I know that we will find the beautiful and courageous woman we thought we had lost.  She will come out of this stronger and wiser.
Back of quilt
My hope is that this quilt will not only keep her warm in the upcoming winter but that the words on it will build her up and encourage her to "stand strong".

She is: Beautiful, Strong, Mother, Sister, Daughter, Comforter,
Gorgeous, Loving, Sexy, Awesome, Smart, Confident!

Kia kaha! not just to my loved one but to all those who are still suffering and I pray will one day find the courage to demand better for themselves and their children.

1 comment:

Ineke said...

Wat een naar verhaal. Ik hoop echt dat ze zich beter gaat voelen. Prachtige quilt trouwens.